{Wedding Etiquette} Who pays?
This post is dedicated to the couple that approached us our stand at the Wedding Expo wanting to know what the bride and groom have to pay for. Like most things the answer is not black and white. Many of the rules and customs regarding who pays for certain parts of the wedding have changed . There are still some customs that are still apply like lobola and exchanging gifts between the two families. Keep in mind that a lot of the expenses are now shared with many couples are now saving up and paying for their own weddings.
Traditional Hindu culture:
In traditional Hindu culture bride’s parents prepare a dowry for their daughter to take with her after the marriage. The bride’s family also pays for the wedding including the mandapa, the ceremony and food. The groom would pay for the honeymoon.
Picture by: Hema Nana
Traditional Local South African cultures:
With most local cultures including Xhosa, Pedi, Sotho, Tswana, Venda, Zulu and Ndebele the groom’s family pays lobola (dowry) to the bride’s family in the form of cows. Both families would also exchange gift items such as three-legged pots, clothing and shoes for the elders of each family.
Traditional white weddings:
Bride and family
- Arrangements for church
- Bride’s dress, veil, accessories, and lingerie and honeymoon clothes)
- Reception, bouquets and corsages for bridesmaids and flower girls.
- Bride plans and hosts bridesmaids’ luncheon
- Wedding transportation of bridal party to and from ceremony and reception
- Groom’s ring
- All professional services, including food, drink, decorations, and music
- Invitations and any announcements and wedding programs
- wedding photos and video
Picture by: Ian Cooper Photography
Groom and family
- Honeymoon
- bride’s bouquet and going-away corsage, boutonnieres for men, and corsages for mothers and grandmothers
- Marriage license and officiant’s fee
- Bar services
- The bride’s rings
- Plans and hosts the rehearsal dinner
- Groom’s outfit
Picture by: welovepictures
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Would love to receive pic of sepedi and ndebele traditional wedding dresses since I’m preparing mine for June.